December ends with many of us in a frenzy…not just from the holidays but from the pressure we put on ourselves to set goals for the coming new year. For many years, I would sit down with a blank notebook and stare at the vast “blankness” of the page…a blank slate upon which to dream and vision what the coming year would bring for me. I’d make a list of my intentions that would make “The Dream” a reality.
I’d start the year off with the proverbial bang, affirming my intentions every morning and checking-off the little boxes on my to-do list of actions…moving me one step closer to “The Dream”.
And then, around the 25th of January, I would begin skipping the morning affirmations. I wouldn’t even look at my fancy new planner with the little boxes to check-off as actions were completed. “The Dream” would get buried under the mundane tasks of daily life. That is…until the end of December when the whole cycle would start again. Pretty depressing.
But last year, I decided to take a different approach.
I decided to have a “closing ceremony”.
Yes…similar to the Olympics, I decided to celebrate the losses and victories of the year that had just passed…to honor my mistakes and my accomplishments…to recall all the emotionally charged moments–good and bad–from the past year. I thought about the conflicts I’d had with others…the times when my words and actions fell short of reflecting my highest and best self. I also thought about all the loving and joyful interactions I’d had with the people in my life.
By doing this, I reviewed the lessons I needed to learn and saw things about myself that I hadn’t realized before. I addressed the hidden reservations and unconscious agendas that had sabotaged “The Dream” in the last year…so they wouldn’t sabotage it again in the coming year.
In short, I contemplated the 12 months…the 52 weeks…the 365 days that had passed, acknowledged all that had happened and all that hadn’t…and released them. By clearing out the old year, I made space for the new one just beginning.
Yes…a closing ceremony makes all the difference.
Have your own this year and connect with me to let me know how your closing ceremony went. I’d love to hear from you.
Wishing you joyful new year,